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Teach Anger Management – Five Ways to Help Students Deal With Anger Constructively

By Susan Fitzell
 

The school year may be winding down, but as students gear up for a summer of vacations, ice cream, and barbeques, anger and behavior problems experienced at school could follow them home. As teachers and parents it is our role to teach youth how to effectively manage their anger and other emotions before a problem arises.

Five Ways to Help Students Deal With Anger Constructively

1. Teach students the difference between primary and secondary emotions: A primary emotion is what we feel first, such as fear, sadness, joy, and acceptance. Explain to students that anger is a secondary emotion, or an emotion that evolves from what we feel first. Help youth to identify the primary emotion underlying their anger, so they can more clearly express their feelings. Explain that if they say they feel pressured, left-out, or sad, as opposed to saying they feel angry, it is much clearer what their unmet emotional need is and what would help them to feel better.

2. Help students recognize physical manifestations of anger: When someone is in a conflict, his or her amygdala, the brain’s emotional alarm system, scans the situation for potential danger. If the situation registers as dangerous, a distress signal is sent out to the entire brain, which, in turn, triggers a cascade of physiological responses-from a speeded-up heart rate to mobilized muscles to the release of the “fight or flight” hormones, adrenaline and noradrenaline. Brain studies suggest that the moment a person becomes self-aware of escalating emotions, they activate the pre-frontal lobes, which in turn reduce stress hormones and allow a state of calm to return. Therefore, it is important to help youth to notice any changes happening in the body, investigate the thoughts feeding the stress, and change the self-talk to be more constructive.

3. Teach students positive self-talk: Positive self-talk can be used by youth to help decrease their feelings of anger and choose how to react in a conflict. Tell students to employ positive self-talk when they notice their body is in a fight or flight state. Do not, however, confuse positive inner dialogue with positive thinking, happy affirmations, or self-delusions. Using logical, accurate self-talk means recognizing one’s personal shortcomings, but also putting them in perspective and defining a do-able plan of action. To demonstrate the appropriate use of self-talk, role-play one person (A) putting down another person (B). After being insulted, person B shares his or her best positive self-talk. For example: “She must be having a bad day,” “I can handle this,” and “It’s not worth the price to fight.”


4. Tell students to own their emotions: It is important for youth to remember that no one can “make” them mad. Tell them that they not only have the right to feel, but that they are also fully responsible for those feelings and the way they handle them. Teach students that no one can put feelings inside of them, that people can only trigger their anger, and that they choose how they feel. Reinforce the concept that in choosing, they are empowered and that when they don’t choose, and don’t own their emotions, they are giving away their power.

5. Teach students to keep their power: There are three ways that youth can give away their power in a conflict: through blaming others, expectations, and feeling they can change someone else. Tell them that when they blame someone else for their anger, they are saying that person is responsible for their anger, and therefore give away their power to someone else.

Help students to understand that their expectations are their choice. If they set expectations for another person and become angry when that person doesn’t meet their expectations, they give away their power.

Teach students that if they base their happiness on whether someone will change, they give that person the power over their emotions. The other person can control their emotions simply by changing or not changing.

Adapted from Transforming Anger to Personal Power by Susan Gingras Fitzell

Related: Anger Management – One tool in the Peace Kit by Sussan Fitzell



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